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So today’s word is love. When I initially saw that this was in the list, I thought “piece of cake, I got this.” Boy was I wrong, I never want to take a dump on a post (I know your mental picture is going to some crazy places) 💩 and serve it up and call it a masterpiece (thoughtless, soul-less, careless content) So I decided against the cookie cutter response. You know the one everyone goes to…the crazy thing is it’s scripture but it’s cookie cutter, not because the words aren’t life, but because it’s just words on a page or just something that is said at every wedding. It has become a tradition of men, preachers say it and the audience and partners hear it and it goes in one ear and right out the other.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. -1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Through this blog, but more so, through learning the Jewish language, I have a deepening appreciation for words and the letters that make up the words. I’m not sure if it is because my 5-fold ministry gift is a teacher, but it’s so fascinating to me how when you really meditate on the fact that everything in existence began with a word, it blows my mind 😲💥😲 I’m truly in awe of the fact that we have the same power… its remarkable when you really think about it. This is super powerful but when you don’t live it, it’s just words on a paper or something to say and it builds a case against you because the tool to really live life according to the word is at our fingertips but rejected and disregarded. Folk might think it’s not that deep. Oh but it is, your life is a report card of what we’ve put into practice and what has been rejected.
Hear the word of the Lord, you Israelites, because the Lord has a charge to bring against you who live in the land: “There is no faithfulness, no love, no acknowledgment of God in the land. There is only cursing, lying and murder, stealing and adultery; they break all bounds, and bloodshed follows bloodshed. Because of this the land dries up, and all who live in it waste away; the beasts of the field, the birds in the sky and the fish in the sea are swept away. “But let no one bring a charge, let no one accuse another, for your people are like those who bring charges against a priest. You stumble day and night, and the prophets stumble with you. So I will destroy your mother—my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. “Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children. The more priests there were, the more they sinned against me; they exchanged their glorious God for something disgraceful.-Hosea 4:1-7
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is the standard. You can measure your love against it. In relationships are you patient? Are you kind? Are you jealous or boastful or proud? How about rude? Can you be rude at times? You know like when someone cuts you off in traffic or your significant other does or says something offensive, are you rude then? If you are, then you aren’t loving. That’s a pretty sobering look at it, but this is real. You can continue on through the list but if there’s any violation, YOU ARE NOT LOVING! That’s reality, period. We can’t go through life not taking responsibility for us. It’s easy to blame it on circumstances or what someone did that caused you to react and leave it there and go on your merry way because that’s what we were taught. We were given and therefore give the “It is what it is” mentality about things we
need to must care about and it’s not good enough. We can’t live our lives with these “hurt people, hurt people” ideologies about life and love and expect progress. Although it may be true, the work is just beginning, it doesn’t stop there because we can heal hurts…with true and pure love.
See that scripture as a benchmarker and the cool thing about that is you get to see where you are but you can also use it to measure progress. You can see where you came from and where you are now and rejoice. It’s not meant to condemn it’s just a tool. If you need work in that area, you have the ingredient to get it right. This takes effort but you can become more loving.
The Lord isn’t the only one who has the ability to love with intensity. He isn’t the only one that can love completely without fault because we are made in His image; but not only His image, according to Genesis 1:26, it says that we were also made in His likeness. We aren’t a cheap copy. We have a will, we can choose just as the Godhead does. Choose love today.
You guys know how much I like to come up with a song for every post in Elul, *Spoiler Alert* This is the song that I want to walk down the aisle to…
I am a true believer in love. I don’t believe that people fall in and out of love. Love isn’t a something that happens to you like tripping. Love is intentional. Love is work. Love is not based off of a feeling. Love is showing up when everyone else has given up and you don’t know why you haven’t. Love is a belief that things can get better and an action to do your part. Love is sticking and staying and sometimes it’s a release. Love is a verb that you choose to do and if we elevate, it is who we are. It oozes out of us and is felt without a touch. Issa vibe, at least that’s my belief.
I just so happened to be talking to my mom and thought I’d ask her if she’d ever been in love. This question was sparked because in Bible study the other day she said she never asked God about her spouse but got married and ended up divorced. I didn’t think to ask her to expound on it at the time but as I was writing this post I thought why not? At first she gave me the cookie cutter response but I told her I didn’t want that and the she said, “It has layers.” I thought that was so simple but so eloquent. I then asked her to expound on what she started talking about the other night and she said “I thought that the connection was love. I felt safe. We had similarities and I thought we had things in common but come to find out it was just surface. I assumed opposites attract so I didn’t oppose it.” Too many have the same stories. It’s interesting that there’s so many colloquialisms (as stated before) but what happened to our work ethic? Not just in making someone else rich but our work ethic in our homes? I read that there was a 40 to 50% divorce rate among US households in 1980 which was the peak and has been declining ever since but it still seems too common. We are physically employed (well at least you guys are 🙂 ) and emotionally bankrupt. Will we ever return to a time of no resignations or lay offs? Will it ever be a time when we will love until we retire from this Earth? Where’s the passion? What happened to taking pride in our work? You do know relationships are work, right? I know this sounds super dramatic but these are real questions and concerns I have as a single woman who is a product of divorce and has never been married.
As I researched more I was led back to 1 Corinthians I read further this time
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless. When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. -1 Corinthians 13:4-13
Perhaps, I’ll never have the understanding I seek when it comes to love but scripture promises me that there will come a time of perfect clarity. What are your thoughts on love? Obviously, love comes in many forms. Feel free to share your experiences or thoughts below.
I just want you to know that I love you. We are in this human experience together and you have a cheerleader in me. I love you because in me being my most authentic self, you read and on some level related. Whenever, wherever that happened, we connected. I’m honored. Before anyone joined We, The Peculiars, I had to. I love what I do here and I’m committed to it whether it’s one person or 100 million. So when I say I love you, it’s not cavalier, I truly do.
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