So if you read yesterday’s post, you already know that there was a leak in my home that I had to take care of and for that I apologize for the late post. Sometimes, ok, a lot of times, I’m late but not that late.
Today I wanted to talk about comfort. I’m not sure if you have the app called Marco Polo. If you don’t, it’s a video walkie talkie. Every morning I talk to Sabrina while driving to work and a lot of times I’m talking to her about issues that she may already know about and just updating her on them but then other times, I talk to her about a revelation I received or something I had on my heart. I legit just push the record button and start talking and majority of the time, it is a topic that just comes out of nowhere but it’s right on time.
This morning I started talking about comfort in reference to the leak. I was saying that I could’ve just cut the water off and went to my mom’s and how we will create these workarounds for life’s obstacles and we’ll get comfortable. Eventually, the workaround becomes comfortable and soon becomes an enabler for the norm. But then there’s times, when you have your mind set on getting something done, you do it and it’s over with. Bang, Boom, Pow! Done!
Why is that? I believe that the problem sparks the motivation and if you are able to stay calm in the situation it helps with rationality when making decisions on the spot. However, if you’re the type of person that freaks out or is prone to meltdowns then typically more time is needed. This time that is needed now has the possibility to be a scapegoat and enabler, as well as, the reason for lost momentum. Now, I’m not saying that there aren’t times that you won’t need more time for research or second opinions but be careful to make sure that you don’t get comfortable in your workaround. Here’s some steps to avoid the workaround trap
- Give yourself a deadline- We are use to setting deadlines for goals but it’s imperative that you set deadlines for the progress of projects of any kind. Create checklist. It will give you clear steps to move forward in the management of the project.
- Do the work- If you are using a workaround to research vendors, research vendors-don’t waste time. Don’t sit on action just because you bought yourself a little time.
- Remember the longer you wait the worse the outcome may be- If I didn’t get the leak fixed right away, the problem could’ve been much worse. The ceiling could’ve fallen in, my whole middle floor could’ve flooded and my furniture ruined. Whether you acknowledge problems or not, they still exist and persist.
- Make a choice- You’ve done research and got quotes, that’s great but don’t get caught up there. Schedule an appointment with the most qualified/recommended choice. There’s no time to be indecisive. Figure out the finances involved, don’t allow a large bill be the reason you don’t get the work done. Make plans for arrangements but don’t let the work go undone, usually it’s worse if you do.
- Be proactive- This is your space. No one should be more concerned than you. If you don’t hear from a contractor, don’t be afraid to reach out or make arrangements. Remember, you need them, not the other way around.
- Communicate- Learn all that you can about the issue and learn as much as you can about the contractor…it’s just good rapport building and you never turn down an opportunity to network…build your people skills. Who knows they could assist you with another project…
- Inspect the work- Don’t just take the contractor’s word. Check behind them. Are you still having the same problems? Document your findings. Don’t be afraid to let them know if there is a problem.
- Pay it forward- Don’t forget the tip. If someone went out of their way for you, gave you good service, a discount or even just took you on as a client…whatever it maybe, show your appreciation, even if it’s not much. Also, recommend those who give great service, you would want someone to do it for you.
Also, look at this video by Sarah Jakes-Roberts about boundaries. In it, she gives valuable tips about how to handle boundaries by respecting them, creating them and moving outside of them (comfort zones).
Hope these steps help, not just if you find yourself in a similar situation, but those steps can be applied in any situation. If you need a workaround, don’t be afraid to use it. All I’m saying is don’t allow it to be your new norm.